Expensive gifts, a monthly allowance, being invited on every day – yes, being a sugar baby sounds fun, but there is another side to it. Let’s talk about what being a sugar baby is really like and why not everything that shines is made of gold. Will you be able to be his secret affair if the price is right? How do you deal with jealousy when you date a married man? Read on to find out what a sugar baby has to say about her past arrangements.

• Olivia talks about being a sugar baby
• Some girls see being a sugar baby as a means to live a lifestyle like their role models on Instagram
• What being a sugar baby is really like
• How being a sugar baby helps some girls to pay for uni
• Being a sugar baby can make your student life easier
• Why being a sugar baby is not always a longterm solution
• What being a sugar baby of a married man is like
• Don’t mistake being a sugar baby for being in a relationship with him
• Being a sugar baby comes with compromises

Olivia talks about being a sugar baby

Why would you choose being a sugar baby and dating an older guy if you’re in your early twenties and can still make all the boys’ heads turn whenever you enter a bar? Well, if you asked Olivia, she’s simply say: “They can’t offer me the lifestyle I aim for.” Simple. Olivia is just one of an increasing number of young, attractive women in London who go on dates with significantly older men in exchange for luxury gifts, a monthly allowance, and – in some cases – even entire flats paid for by their “sugar daddies”. When an older guy has your back financially, London or New York certainly become different cities.

“I don’t think our generation is necessarily more materialistic than the ones before that. You’re just more involved in each other’s lives – everybody is on Instagram, you compare your lifestyle with that of the people you admire, and you realise: This could be me!”, Olivia explains. In the UK alone, Instagram reportedly boasts more than 14 million active users per month. Many of them are presumably younger than 30 like Olivia, who has just finished her masters degree in London. And more and more of them take the glamorous, extravagant lifestyle of their role models on Instagram as a benchmark for success.

Some girls see being a sugar baby as a means to live a lifestyle like their role models on Instagram

Instagram is full of accounts of beautiful young women boasting a lavish lifestyle full of luxury shopping and traveling. “It’s the luxurious life we all aspire, but how realistic is it if you’re a fulltime student in a city like London or New York?” Olivia decided that she didn’t want to wait until she’d eventually reap the rewards for working hard. Instead, she decided to look for a wealthy man who could afford to give her the life she dreamt of not tomorrow, but today.

For her, being a sugar baby means that she can focus on her career without having the pressure to prove herself of compete with others. “Being a sugar baby means I have the budget to travel when I want and where I want. You could even say that being a sugar baby makes me more independent.” Olivia managed to strike an arrangement with her sugar daddy where he covers not only her rent, but also transfers a monthly allowance to her bank account that she can spend however she wants. Yes, you read that right:

Being a sugar baby can refinance your entire cost of living in London and more.

Olivia claims that being a sugar baby and dating wealthy older men for money is far more common than everyone would want to believe. Admittetly, if you look at the glossy, stylish Instagram accounts of many young girls, you start to wonder how they finance their luxurious lifestyle and all those fancy new wardrobe updates. Most of us complain about their work life balance and still don’t have the money for fancy trips all the time.

What being a sugar baby is really like

The idea of being a sugar baby is essentially that you date a wealthy man and get some sort of financial benefits in return. Some sugar daddies pay their sugar babies in cash, while others prefer to buy them expensive gifts. While all of that may sound tempting to you, don’t be fooled: Being a sugar baby is different from being in a relationship! Many sugar daddies see their sugar babies quite frequently and take them on date nights or weekend trips, but few of them share their entire life with their sugar baby. “There’s an invisible line that you know exists, and you don’t talk about it. Essentially being a sugar baby only works if you’re not expecting too much. Sugar daddies don’t like clingy girls, they usually just want good company when they’re in town.”, Olivia goes on.

You could say that being a sugar baby means you’re expected to be there for him when he needs a date, but you are also free to live your own life. In return for being a sugar baby, you receive some neat financial benefits that will help you pay for a lifestyle you probably couldn’t sustain on your own. For women that are looking to keep some independence in their private lives, being a sugar baby can therefore feel quite liberating. The generous financial support they receive means they are free to pursue opportunities without much effort.

How being a sugar baby helps some girls to pay for uni

One of the most common motivations for girls seeking arrangements with a sugar daddy is higher education. Tuition fees of univertisies have been on the rise, and reportedly, there is no end in sight. Most students can only afford studying with a government loan, the support of their parents and part-time jobs. Even then, the top universities often charge so much that after graduation many of them have to pay back their debt for many years to come.

With this prospect, it really shouldn’t surprise anyone that dating an older man is seen as an opportunity to study without all the financial burdens. After all, for most of us, college is the period in our lives when we feel truly free to be ourselves and live our lives for the first time ever. When you know your rent and tuition fees are sorted, you are obviously much more capable of enjoying these short, sweet years in your life.

Being a sugar baby can make your student life easier

“But what about part-time jobs?”, you may ask. Admittedly, most of us had a student job at some point, and it’s often an important step of growing up. However, when money becomes an issue and you need to clock in too many hours just to pay for school or rent, it can quickly have a negative impact on your grades. Sometimes students even have to skip classes to work extra shifts. When you are a college sugar baby and have the financial support of a generous sugar daddy, you simply do not know any of these worries:

• No night shifts meaning you’ll be less tired
• Fewer ruined weekends because of work – you still have time to go out
• Less distraction of your studies – you can focus on your uni work
• No financial pressure

Why being a sugar baby is not always a longterm solution

While it can make the life of a student quite comfortable, being a sugar baby comes with it’s downsides, too. The men who look for a sugar baby are typically on the lookout for an attractive, younger girlfriend who makes them feel young again. A sugar baby simply is every successful man’s sexual fantasy, and as such, her looks are essential. If you consider a sugar daddy arrangement, you should therefore ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I happy to spend a lot of time on my looks to be attractive for him?
2. Am I OK with the feeling that sometimes looks may come before personality?
3. Does it bother me that he will always pay for everything when we are on a date?

And last but not least, do not forget the most important thing to bear in mind: One day, your sugar daddy might look for a sugar baby younger than you! Of course, until that day, you are sure to have a lot of fun and receive rather handsome financial benefits and gifts from him.

What being a sugar baby of a married man is like

It’s not unusual for a sugar daddy to be married to another woman. Some sugar daddies even have families and just look to escape their daily grind for a while when they go on dates with beautiful sugar babies. After years of being in a relationship, mature, successful men often look for a bit of spice in their lives. Dating a much younger, attractive woman can make them feel young again and work wonders for their self confience. For them, the sugar baby is often something like a trophy girlfriend. Sugar babies give sugar daddies the feeling of being desired and admired like they were at the beginning of their marriage.

Sugar daddies often expect discretion

This does not necessarily mean that they live in unhappy relationships. Actually it is quite natural for any relationship that both partners get a bit too used to each other. All the initial excitement and passion often disappears slowly, but constantly. A secret affair is not seldom simply an escape from the daily relationship routine. Obviously the consequence of being a sugar baby of a married man is that you will have to share him with another woman in his life. And at the end of the day, he will probably choose to return to that very woman. Depending on what you are looking for, this is not necessarily a bad thing, though. Here are some pros and cons to consider when dating a married sugar daddy:

Don’t mistake being a sugar baby for being in a relationship with him

“The golden rule for every sugar baby is the simplest and hardest rule of them all”, Olivia explains: “Don’t be jealous.” Sugar daddies may desire you, and they may look for ways to bring excitement back into their lives, but they are not looking for drama. When a wife comes into the equation, be prepared for the thought that he has sex with another woman while dating you. “It’s the simplest rule, because you get to keep your freedom as well. However, it’s also the hardest rule, because you may get attached to him eventually.”

Some sugar daddies eventually ask their sugar babies to become their official girlfriends, but you should also be prepared for the opposite. When you are jealous of his private life and his official relationship, you might scare him away. If you force him to choose between his sugar baby and his relationship, he might dump you in a wink. As you see, being a sugar baby can become complicated as soon as emotions come into play, so be prepared for the consequences.

Being a sugar baby comes with compromises, but it can literally pay off

Superficiality, the pressure to look pretty, secrets, jealousy – is being a sugar baby really worth putting up with all these factors? At the end of the day, things sound more dramatic than they actually are. First and foremost, being a sugar baby should be fun for you. Unlike with most other relationships, you usually know right from the beginning what you sign up for. Your sugar daddy knows what he wants from the arrangement, but the same goes for you. As with all dating and relationships, there’s the risk that things develop in a different direction. Still, you will find that it may actually be easier to be open with your sugar daddy than it is with a regular date.

After all, being a sugar baby means that you are his date on your own terms. You are not the only one who needs to compromise. Yes, you may be his discreet affair. Maybe he will never want to show himself with you as his official girlfriend. But you will be in the position to demand financial benefits. Regular monthly support, a shopping allowance – whatever it is you desire. In the end, being a sugar baby can pay off quite literally for you.